Hi everyone! I’ve been thinking a lot about ways I can better myself in various aspects of my life recently, and one of the areas that I was specifically thinking about was my bookish life. I’ve been doing so many bookish things that I don’t actually want to out of what I thought was pressure from the community, but then I realized that (in the wise words of Michael from The Good Place) “the problem… is me”.
I’m the one who forces myself, or puts pressure on myself, to do these things, and I’m the one who puts off doing these things until they become a problem and they stress me out, so I thought it might be a fun idea to do a whole blog post on bookish things I have to stop doing. So that y’all can see what a mess I am, and so that I can hold myself accountable and actually work on changing these things. SO, a few of the bookish things I have to stop doing are:
Forcing myself to read things I don’t really want to read, just because I feel like I have to. This is a thing I, unfortunately, do quite a lot. For example; I’ll look at all the books I’ve read this year and see that I’ve hardly read any SFF books, so I feel like I have to pick one up, even though I don’t want to. Or I’ll see a lot of people talk about adult books, and I’ll feel like I should pick one up even though I have no interest in adult books whatsoever.
I want to try and be okay with what I read, as long as I like it. Who cares if there’s a month in which short middle grade audiobooks are the only thing I read, if I’m enjoying it it’s totally fine.
Feel like I have to read the sequel of a book, even though I’ve lost interest in a series. I am a person who doesn’t have the best memory when it comes to books. Well, okay, maybe that’s not true. Maybe almost everyone would forget a lot of the things that happen in a book when you read 100+ books a year (or less). But this is often a problem when it comes to sequels, because I’ll read the first book right when it comes out, have to wait a year for the sequel, and then have lost all interest in it because I don’t remember anything about the plot or the characters. Yet, I’ll still feel this need to complete the series.
I’m actually currently doing this with Wildcard by Marie Lu. I loved Warcross, but it’s just been too long now and I’m not invested in the book anymore and it’s completely ruining my love for the series. I need to stop doing this. I really hope that from now on I’ll either, A) don’t force myself to pick up the sequel if I don’t want to, or B) wait until the series is finished so that I can marathon read all of the books.
Stop postponing writing reviews!!! You have no idea how many times I’ve told myself to stop doing this, but yet here we are. It’s never been a secret that I don’t love writing reviews. Don’t get me wrong, I love sharing my thoughts on books with you all, but reviews are just not my favorite posts to write. So I put writing them off. And then I end up feeling very stressed once the day of a book’s release comes around, and I’ve just made things so much harder on myself because I won’t be able to remember most details of the book.
I really want to implement a rule where I have to write a review immediately after finishing an ARC, but we’ll see how that goes.
Impulsively requesting books. This often happens when I go on Edelweiss. I just see a book that looks fun, read the synopsis, decide that it sounds pretty good, and then request it right away. It’s like I’m somehow convinced that if I wait even a few minutes the chance of me being accepted for this ARC will become a lot smaller. This way I end up with loads of ARCs I’m only mildly interested in, and I’ll feel super overwhelmed.
I want to put more thought into deciding what ARCs to request. I’m super glad I’m in a position where my ARC requests are sometimes accepted, and a reason why I end up impulsively requesting books is because there’s something so incredibly exciting about having a new book and having your request be accepted, but I want to try and wait for at least an hour after first seeing the title before I request the ARC. Just to make sure that I really am excited about this title, and it’s not just a spur of the moment thing.
So, those are a few of the things I want to start working on! And believe me, they’re definitely not the only things, haha. But we have to start somewhere, right?
What are some bookish things that you do, that you want to stop doing? Let’s chat about it in the comments!