Bookish Things I Have to Stop Doing

Hi everyone! I’ve been thinking a lot about ways I can better myself in various aspects of my life recently, and one of the areas that I was specifically thinking about was my bookish life. I’ve been doing so many bookish things that I don’t actually want to out of what I thought was pressure from the community, but then I realized that (in the wise words of Michael from The Good Place) “the problem… is me”.DOthxCJU8AEcc8DDOmvN9BWAAAHzHd

I’m the one who forces myself, or puts pressure on myself, to do these things, and I’m the one who puts off doing these things until they become a problem and they stress me out, so I thought it might be a fun idea to do a whole blog post on bookish things I have to stop doing. So that y’all can see what a mess I am, and so that I can hold myself accountable and actually work on changing these things. SO, a few of the bookish things I have to stop doing are:

Forcing myself to read things I don’t really want to read, just because I feel like I have to. This is a thing I, unfortunately, do quite a lot. For example; I’ll look at all the books I’ve read this year and see that I’ve hardly read any SFF books, so I feel like I have to pick one up, even though I don’t want to. Or I’ll see a lot of people talk about adult books, and I’ll feel like I should pick one up even though I have no interest in adult books whatsoever.

I want to try and be okay with what I read, as long as I like it. Who cares if there’s a month in which short middle grade audiobooks are the only thing I read, if I’m enjoying it it’s totally fine.

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Feel like I have to read the sequel of a book, even though I’ve lost interest in a series. I am a person who doesn’t have the best memory when it comes to books. Well, okay, maybe that’s not true. Maybe almost everyone would forget a lot of the things that happen in a book when you read 100+ books a year (or less). But this is often a problem when it comes to sequels, because I’ll read the first book right when it comes out, have to wait a year for the sequel, and then have lost all interest in it because I don’t remember anything about the plot or the characters. Yet, I’ll still feel this need to complete the series.

I’m actually currently doing this with Wildcard by Marie Lu. I loved Warcross, but it’s just been too long now and I’m not invested in the book anymore and it’s completely ruining my love for the series. I need to stop doing this. I really hope that from now on I’ll either, A) don’t force myself to pick up the sequel if I don’t want to, or B) wait until the series is finished so that I can marathon read all of the books.

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Stop postponing writing reviews!!! You have no idea how many times I’ve told myself to stop doing this, but yet here we are. It’s never been a secret that I don’t love writing reviews. Don’t get me wrong, I love sharing my thoughts on books with you all, but reviews are just not my favorite posts to write. So I put writing them off. And then I end up feeling very stressed once the day of a book’s release comes around, and I’ve just made things so much harder on myself because I won’t be able to remember most details of the book.

I really want to implement a rule where I have to write a review immediately after finishing an ARC, but we’ll see how that goes.

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Impulsively requesting books. This often happens when I go on Edelweiss. I just see a book that looks fun, read the synopsis, decide that it sounds pretty good, and then request it right away. It’s like I’m somehow convinced that if I wait even a few minutes the chance of me being accepted for this ARC will become a lot smaller. This way I end up with loads of ARCs I’m only mildly interested in, and I’ll feel super overwhelmed.

I want to put more thought into deciding what ARCs to request. I’m super glad I’m in a position where my ARC requests are sometimes accepted, and a reason why I end up impulsively requesting books is because there’s something so incredibly exciting about having a new book and having your request be accepted, but I want to try and wait for at least an hour after first seeing the title before I request the ARC. Just to make sure that I really am excited about this title, and it’s not just a spur of the moment thing.

So, those are a few of the things I want to start working on! And believe me, they’re definitely not the only things, haha. But we have to start somewhere, right?

What are some bookish things that you do, that you want to stop doing? Let’s chat about it in the comments! 

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34 gedachtes over “Bookish Things I Have to Stop Doing

  1. BiblioNyan zegt:

    Yes! I relate to much with reading sequels for serials I don’t care for and feeling compelled to read books just because they are what’s being buzzed about. I’m working on not doing both of those things, but it’s tough.

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      It’s definitely tough! I don’t really feel forced to read books that are buzzed about anymore, but I definitely feel forced to branch out my reading a bit more. But like, why should I not be allowed to only read YA/MG contemporary if that’s what I like? Why would I force myself to read SFF books while I don’t care about them that much?
      Hope working on these things will go very well for you!

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      • BiblioNyan zegt:

        Yeah, I completely agree! The argument for “if you’re not reading this genre or that genre, then you’re not a real reader” is very annoying and terrible. I hope it stops one day.

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  2. Tara zegt:

    I get sucked in by the same philosophy of “well, I started this book,” or “I’ve started this series” but a friend who works at a bookstore and reads WAY more than I ever will told me once “life’s too short to spend it on a bad book.” And I take that to mean series/genres/books I don’t like too 🙂

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      Oh yes, you’re absolutely right and I try to implement that rule in my life as well, but mu curiosity often gets the best of me. I just really want to know how a book ends once I’ve started it! This is not a problem when it comes to physical books, because I can just skip forward to the end, but it’s a lot trickier when it comes to audiobooks.

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  3. Aj @ Read All The Things! zegt:

    Good luck with the changes! I’m pretty good at doing my own thing and reading whatever I want, but I’m terrible at writing reviews. I’m usually 8-10 books behind. I just have no motivation to write reviews. Probably because they barely get any views on the blog, and I’ve written so many of them that I’m bored.

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      Thank you! And that’s so incredibly relatable. Reviews often take me the longest time to write, and they get the least views. I also don’t often know what to say? Especially when it comes to a book I like. “I liked the characters and the plot and the writing” only gets you so far, haha. I’d much rather talk about these books in recommendation posts or fun tags.

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  4. Cecelia zegt:

    I can definitely relate to procrastinating writing reviews! They’re also my least favorite type of blog post to write; this is honestly the ONE thing that is easier for me to verbally talk about rather than to write it down.

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  5. Alexa zegt:

    You actually get accepted for stuff on Edelweiss? I basically never do. Although I also can’t really explain why I want to request the book… like, damn, it sounds interesting and I want to read? Idk what to write.

    Good on you for decreasing pressure on yourself! If you enjoy MG or YA books, then do that. ❤

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      I basically only get accepted by one publisher on there, lol, so it’s not that many titles but I feel very easily overwhelmed. And I never know what to write either! I usually go for something like ‘the synopsis says that the book is perfect for readers of this author and I’m a huge fan of them, and the synopsis of the book sounds amazing in general, etc.’ And thank you ❤

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      • Alexa zegt:

        Which publisher? But yeah, I requested almost two dozen and got approved for 2 😀 And I usually write something like that as well!

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  6. Marie zegt:

    This is such an interesting post, Laura, and I can relate to it a whole lot. I tend to force myself, or just want to read some books because they’re everywhere and they are quite popular, even though I know they’re not for me. It’s good to step outside of your comfort zone, but I know my taste fairly well and sometimes I want a book just… like that, while I clearly know it’s not for me hahaha. Need to do better on that, too 🙂

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      That’s super relatable as well! I’m just way too easily influenced by other people, and when people talk about a book I know I wouldn’t like in a very enthusiastic way I definitely want to read it. But yeah, I need to start making better decisions about that.

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  7. Mel zegt:

    This is such a great and relatable post! I especially relate to impulsively requesting books. I have that problem with both NetGalley and Edelweiss because as a librarian, I’m autoapproved for a lot of publishers, so even if I’m not initially interested in a book, I download it because it’s there and readily available, so I feel like “why not” even though I know I won’t read some of them. It’s just so easy to click “download” and so hard to resist for some reason even if I’m not super excited by a book.

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      Oh I get you, and I would probably do the same if I were in your position! Maybe it’s kind of a good thing that I’m an international blogger and that Netgalley isn’t available to me at all anymore, and that only one publisher accepts my requests on Edelweiss, haha.

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  8. Lauren @ Wonderless Reviews zegt:

    omg i relate to this post sooo much laura!! i’m so with you on reading books that i feel like i have to read??? this is definitely me with fantasy. my favourite genres are mostly ones contemporary based but i feel like i need to read more fantasy because that’s what everyone else reads and talks about??? i’m terrible at posting reviews like i hate writing them so much and i think that’s played a huge part in helping me stop requesting ARCs??? also sidenote: i laughed so hard at those the good place screencaps 😂😂

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      I’m so glad the good place screencaps made you laugh! It’s such a brilliant show and honestly, everything related to it makes me laugh.
      And YES I feel that so much with fantasy! It’s so weird because I never see people who only read SFF be ashamed of it, but it often feels like we “should” be ashamed of reading contemporary because it’s “easy”. Kind of like the “you have to read classics too because YA is too simplistic!!” argument. But uhh, if I want to read a fun contemporary story and not be confused by world building or magic systems then why not??

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  9. Jessica zegt:

    I agree with all of these and I know the feeling. I put so much pressure on myself to read hyped books even if I know I won’t enjoy them. It’s horrible and I need to stop doing this.

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    • Green Tea & Paperbacks zegt:

      I have the same thing with Edelweiss, I just end up requesting everything because the “you’ve been accepted” notification makes me so happy, but 5 seconds later I’ll hate myself for requesting so many books lmao. Netgalley isn’t really a problem for me anymore though, because almost all of the books on there are ‘wish for it’ titles

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  10. Janey zegt:

    I loved this post so much. Not only does it apply to the book life, but pretty much the rest of life, too. So often we tell ourselves “I have to do this, or my friends/family/spouse/society will hate me,” when the truth is NOBODY’S PAYING THAT MUCH ATTENTION. So you go, girl! Read what you want to, review what you want to, and live how you want to! (btw, how’d you get so wise so young?) 🧐

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  11. Jennilyn V. zegt:

    Good luck on this self-intervention post. Among these, I think I also have to stop postponing book reviews. I always tell myself that I won’t have a hard time doing it anyway because I do extensive note-taking but still, it’s not the same as compared with writing it fresh from the time I finished it. 🙂

    Jennilyn @ Rurouni Jenni Reads

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